“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them” __ Maya Angelou
You loved deeply, fell hard with great intentions. You gave it your all, you were not in to fail, you did all you could but nothing seems to work. You both went from not being able to keep your hands off of each other to living like roommates. You were supposed to grow old together, now you can’t be sure if you’ll make it past this year. What happened? There is no manual? Nothing you have tried has worked and now the panic of your reality is setting in?
You could have all the wealth and advantages in the world, but when your heart is broken, nothing feels right. Things you enjoyed don’t make you happy anymore. You don’t know if the problem is with you, your partner or just the relationship? Don’t lose hope. There are answers, there are ways to overcome this.
An ethical therapist is able to understand your unique situation and circumstances and guide you, support you and facilitate you towards clarity, healing and eventually safety and joy. Every individual has their own set of unique values, priorities, and goals. Twins of the same gender with the same culture and the same advantages will have different values. A good therapist is able to understand these nuances and counsel, facilitate and support you according to who you are and what you want.
It is so unfortunate that people would rather stay in pain and confusion, break-up or live lives that are a reaction to the pain they have experienced, but they will not come to therapy. People are very surprised to find that all of our clients are intelligent, well-adjusted, successful people who have just hit a bump in the road. We are able to lead them to hope and healing. We have coined a Systematic Healing Model based on evidence-based practices. We do use this model to help on a surface behavioral level and a cognitive conceptual level, but we employ techniques to facilitate you in learning to be emotionally independent. We feel our work is done when you don’t need our help anymore.
Even if you break-up with your partner, you can’t break-up with yourself. Go to therapy to understand what happened, how you can fix it, and most importantly how can you make sure it never happens again.
When you cannot afford to get it wrong, come to us. We know relationships inside out. If you have the motivation, we fight for your relationship and find a way to help you if that’s what you want. We have aligned ourselves to be the best individual and couples marriage counselors in Paramus NJ, individuals, couples, and families.
